Although motherhood is one of the most beautiful experiences for a woman, it does not mean that it is the only stage that brings us happiness. In fact, being happy, feeling full, and complete is an essential requirement to enjoy each of the stages of life. Without happiness, we could not appreciate every moment or value all our achievements and we would not even learn from our failures. So, if you think that you are selfish to think about your well-being before that of your children, you are thinking very wrongly. Your happiness is the guarantee of their well-being, never forget it. That is why I invite you to reflect on it, taking into account these 20 reasons why it is good to be happy before everything, without feeling guilty about it.
Don't lose yourself in the roles you have to play in life. Being a mother, being a wife, or being successful in your work must always be accompanied by your dedication and motivation to give your best. The recipe to achieve this depends on your fullness.
You can feel happy every day, despite the challenges or challenges of being a mother, and that does not mean you stop feeling. You can feel angry, worried, or tired, and still be happy. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others, this is a fundamental rule and here I explain why.
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Because when you are happy you take care of your health, you sleep well and you worry about your well-being without feeling selfish about it.
Being a mother does not mean having to be perfect. You are a human being with strengths and weaknesses but above all with "needs". Taking care of yourself and your health should be a priority, so exercise, eat well, sleep well and thus you will be in perfect condition and in perfect spirits.
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You are happy when you have learned to accept your mistakes without fear of being judged or singled out as a bad mother.
Sometimes it is necessary to recalculate the route and flow with the changes. Do not hide your failures, on the contrary, sometimes making them evident helps you exercise humility to accept failures and learn from them. The extra pressure you put yourself through when you want to avoid criticism prevents you from paying attention to the most important thing that is "learning and enjoying".
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When you are happy, you give yourself permission to free yourself from the exhaustion you feel without remorse.
You are a human being with strengths and weaknesses and you are learning on the go. Sometimes you will be exhausted, wanting to run away and take time to breathe. Not bad if you do it especially when you need it to charge the battery and continue.
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When you are happy, you go one step at a time without losing sight of your personal goals.
Despite the fact that motherhood represents a great investment of your time, you do not put aside your dreams or projects. You are looking for a little extra time to plan what you want to do to nourish yourself and you become your priority.
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Because when you are happy you want what you have and you enjoy every moment knowing how to live in the present.
You are happy when you know how to live here and now when you totally connect with each experience. If you are with your children, you pay full attention to enjoying them, if you are working, you put your five senses into it. That is to say, no concern crosses what you are doing.
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Because when you are happy, you don't compare yourself to anyone, you are satisfied with what you have and you fight for what you want.
Nothing better than being an example of perseverance for your children. When they perceive your desire to achieve your goals (beyond being a mother), you become their point of reference before life as they learn to accept themselves, to motivate themselves and to fight for what they want.
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Because when you are happy you can speak about your emotions clearly without feeling guilty about it.
Being a mother does not force you to become a superwoman. Don't want to hide your emotions with the false belief that this way you won't disturb the peace of those around you, including your children or your partner. If you learn to express your emotions, you free yourself from many burdens.
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Because when you are happy you are grateful for life and you have understood that the complaint does not serve you.
If you increase your capacity for gratitude in life, focusing on everything you learn or everything you achieve despite the stress of everyday life and avoid the continuous complaint.
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When you are happy, you always find the good side of things despite the chaos around you.
We know that happiness is the result of the focus or perception that you choose to feel before every situation in your life. If you practice all of the above like taking care of yourself, ask for what you need to talk about your emotions and be grateful, you will always see you will find the side
good of things.
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Because when you are happy you can be empathetic, compassionate, and understanding with others.
When you focus on your well-being, you are in a perfect emotional condition to connect with the beings around you. This is because being good about yourself and being satisfied with who you help you put yourself in the shoes of others without judging them.
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You are happy when you give yourself permission to have fun, even if it is not always in the family and you do not feel bad about it.
Being a mother does not force you to just focus on activities that have to do with your family or your children. If you continue promoting your tastes and practicing your hobbies, you will be giving yourself space you need to be you through activities that you like and thus you will be in a very good mood.
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When you are happy you do not feel guilty for saying "no" when you require it.
Sometimes those around you need a "no" on your part as a way to set healthy limits. That does not make you a bad person, on the contrary, you know that it is a very necessary tool to be genuine in life.
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When you are happy you accept others as they are and do not cling to control the lives of others.
The fact of recognizing yourself as a unique person with her own qualities and faults, helps you understand others (mainly your children) and accept that they are also unique. This takes the need away from wanting to control everything and allowing them to flow at their own pace.
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When you are happy you look for time to be alone, you know that your momentary absence will not harm anyone.
Don't feel like a bad mother or bad person for needing lonely moments, or for requiring mental silence. When you recharge your energy in moments of isolation, you are giving your children and those around you a better version of yourself upon returning from retirement.
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When you are happy, you do not allow motherhood to change you and make you an unsatisfied woman.
Even though motherhood can change your life for the better, it can also (if you allow it) shake you up inside and get you into a fatal crisis in which your essence is at risk. Remember that the role does not define you and you can continue to be you despite the changes in your life.
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You are happy when you are not afraid to ask for help from others and you recognize when you need it.
Needing the support of others does not make you a fragile woman. Plus, it's something that also helps you let go of control. In fact, your children will thank you, it is not the same to take care of them in a bad mood because of how exhausted you feel than to take care of them after a break in which you charge the battery.
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If you are happy you learn to value your qualities and you will stop criticizing yourself for everything.
Remember, the pursuit of perfection could lead you to focus only on your flaws and criticize you more than you should. If you value your virtues, you recognize them and you are aware of your potential, you will leave self-criticism and you will feel satisfied with yourself.
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If you are happy, you will boost your aspirations and have enough energy to organize your life and your times.
The ability to plan your roles depends on your energy. Sometimes exhaustion is only mental because you fill yourself with ideas like It is very difficult, it is very complicated, I cannot be a mother and a woman at the same time. Get organized and live the short moments of discomfort and you will see how "yes you can"
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If you're happy, you won't mind sharing your problems and seeking advice when situations overwhelm you.
If you require advice, guidance, or simply to be listened to, you can ask for it without feeling that you are failing in your resolution abilities. Happiness is the practice of accepting reality. If you feel that some situations overwhelm you, you can ask for advice.
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If you are happy, you trust yourself and do not allow frustrations or anxieties about the future to invade you.
You trust your abilities, your abilities and that whatever happens, everything has a solution and you will know how to find it. You do not allow yourself to be invaded by catastrophic thoughts because you know that you will find the ways.
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